Don’t Steal Their Struggle

If you walk around camp, you will often hear a counselor saying, “don’t steal their struggle.” It is one of our mantras at camp, and a firm belief that Iain and I have as parents and camp directors.

In a world filled with uncertainties, the instinct to protect children can be overwhelming. As parents and educators, we often find ourselves grappling with the fear of what could happen if we don’t act. At camp, we believe and trust in our counselor teams that no camper will be put into a situation where they are unsafe.

The urge to shield children from harm is a natural response, rooted in our desire to keep them safe. Whether it’s worrying about their interactions with others or the potential dangers they might encounter, these thoughts can consume us. As a parent, I often feel that familiar pang of anxiety when I watch my child in risky and rough play. It’s a constant battle between wanting to intervene and letting them navigate their own experiences.

It’s essential to reflect on the balance between ensuring safety and respecting a child’s independence. As educators, we often face this challenge too; how do we create a secure environment while allowing children the freedom to explore and learn from their mistakes? This reflection is crucial in guiding our actions and decisions.

Some areas that present opportunities for campers and counselors to practice this framework:

• Making bed
• Picking an outfit
• Advocating for oneself

By fostering a relationship of trust with our children, we empower them to voice their concerns and fears. When children feel safe to express themselves, we can better understand their experiences and provide guidance without overstepping. This dialogue not only strengthens our bond but also equips them with the tools to navigate challenges independently.

No one should navigate this journey alone. Building a supportive community among parents and educators can create a nurturing environment for our children. Sharing experiences and strategies helps us learn from one another and reinforces the notion that we’re all in this together.

The complexity of wanting to protect our children while respecting their autonomy is a nuanced struggle. It challenges us to reflect on our values and actions. As we navigate this landscape, let’s promote thoughtful discussions that not only honor our instincts but also empower our children to thrive. By doing so, we can create a safer and more supportive environment for them to grow.